Cooking--Part One

First of all, a HUGE thank you to all the people on the CHSFS forum who responded with such empathy and love to my post there. I cannot tell you how great of a support group I have on that forum. And now...for something not really adoption realated: cooking. My first nemesis is my oven.

It sits there in my kitchen and every day at about 4:00 pm it starts taunting me that I need to make dinner. I absolutely hate to cook. I love to bake (go figure) but I hate to cook. It's just not my thing. I would be perfectly happy with a salad every night. But I am not the only person living in this house so I don't get to choose that. Apparently I'm mostly responsible for the dietary needs of three other people (soon to be four other people). One of those three people feels he must have a giant slab of meat at every dinner. Another of those people thinks American Cheese in a flour tortilla is haute cuisine. And the third is pretty happy-go-lucky. Last night I made chicken pot pie (one thing I can make well) and I realized that when Zenabu gets here, I will need to increase the size of all our meals. Not a lot...but enough that I'll have to switch off auto-pilot in the kitchen and think about making sure all my meals feed 5 people.

My other nemesis when it comes to cooking? This sweet face!


He's really cute, I know, but please refer to the above paragraph where I mention American Cheese and tortillas. Enough said. All in all, though, I do a decent job of making sure everyone gets enough fruit and veggies, protein and dairy, and fill in gaps where necessary. I am a little nervous about Zenabu coming when I think about food. His paperwork says his favorite food in the whole wide world is injera and wot. Eh hmmmmm.

Our Timeline

Someone left a comment on my last post that since I didn't have to wait long for a referral with CHSFS that I should not be so hyped up about not getting a travel date yet. And I totally agree with that...if that were the whole story. But some people may not realize what this entire adoption has been like for us thus far, so I thought I'd post our timeline.

July 2005--Decided to adopt from Ethiopia
July 2005--Sent in application to our first agency/Sent in application to home study agency
Feb 2006--Homestudy FINALLY done after horrible delays. Took 7 months (usually takes 2)
Nov 2006--Left first agency after waiting 9 months for a referral. Agency misled and lied to us.
Nov 2006--Switched to CHSFS
Nov/Dec 2006--Had to redo all our paperwork/homestudy/dossier.
Jan 2007--Approved with CHSFS and officially waiting. Received our referral in 3 days. We are very thankful, but the referral process with CHSFS is about the only thing that has gone smoothly for us. In about 4 months we will be at the 2 year mark of this journey. It shouldn't have to be this way, and I would never suggest to anyone that this is typical of how it is to adopt from Ethiopia. It's not. It is generally a smooth process. We have hit just about every snag there is. But am I still overjoyed to be united with Zenabu? You bet. Can you blame me for aching to get him here where I can hold him? I hope not.

Not A Good Day...

Three families with our adoption agency got their clearance to travel today. I am trying so hard to be happy for them. I really am. But all I did was cry. We've been waiting a month longer than them to travel, but they get to go before us. I am just so, so tired. I am tired of waiting and I am tired of having what little hope I have left in me smashed all over the floor. It just plain stinks. Zenabu's case isn't even scheduled for court for another week, and I really have no guarantees it will go through then. What's a mom to do?

Getting Ready


My husband David is a bit of a bicycle fanatic. He loves to mountain bike (and has all the scars and broken bones to prove it) and he's the bike magician at our house. Guess what he bought me for my birthday last year? Yep...a bike! A retro 1969 Schwinn Cruiser. This is a photo of him getting Zenabu's bike all ready for him. This is the bike David bought for Carver when Carver was about 2 and a half. I balked at the price, but David assured me it was a good investment and it would last forever. He knows the good bike brands and bought it at an honest-to-goodness bike shop. Well, here we are 6 years later and this little bike is going strong. Carver rode it forever, then Lily rode it, and now it's getting ship-shape for Zenabu. I can't wait to see those little legs pumping away on it.

Sunday Here...

It was so beautiful this weekend (upper 70s) I actually dragged out the kiddie pool and let the kids splash around. Other than a really bad meltdown from she-who-must-not-be-named, we had a very relaxing weekend together. Church this morning was beautiful, and so many people encouraged me to hang in there--that they're praying for me--that I feel I can face another week. And the best part is, while it's late Sunday afternoon here in Colorado, it's almost the start of the workday on Monday in Addis, Ethiopia. Maybe court is underway even as I write. So here's to good news about Zenabu this week.

Braids and Bugs


I spent most of the morning braiding Lily's hair. It takes about 5 or 6 hours total, so I break it up. I begin on Friday night and get the back done, then on Sat. morning while she watches cartoons, I finish the sides and top. It's absolutely fantastic when I'm done, because other than keeping her scalp moisturized, I don't have to do a thing to her hair for 3 weeks! Who knew a white girl like me could learn how to do braided extensions, but I have. Lily loves her braids and to me that is the best part. She feels incredibly beautiful and happy with her hair when it's braided like this. It is a balmy 70 degrees in Colorado today, so I am headed out to the sandbox for some digging with 2 cutie pies, and then we have a jam-packed day that includes looking for bugs, riding bikes, swinging, grilling burgers, and whatever else we feel like doing. David has nothing scheduled, so we get to be together as a family until we can't stand it anymore. Who knows, this may be one of our last weekends together as a family of 4. Once we get Zenabu, we'll be 5. I'm just leaning on God for His timing.

Conversations With A Pharmacist

I was at the store tonight to drop off a vast array of prescriptions to be filled, and the pharmacist was quick to notice they were mostly travel meds. The anti-malaria pills must have been the big tip-off. He wanted to know where we were going so I told him Ethiopia. His eyes got big and just out of curiosity asked why. I explained that David was going to pick up our son. Have you ever seen your pharmacist melt? I have. He just gushed over me. The cashier came over and gushed too. They had all the fun questions like how old is he? what's his name? how long will David be there? when did we get our referral? I found myself getting excited all over again. They had the awesome response you hope you get when you share your news that you are adopting, and I got to talk about my current favorit subject: Zenabu. It was so fun, in fact, I didn't even bat an eye at the total cost of all those travel meds. Blimey!

I don't advise self-medicating with food, but man was this chocolate good today!

RATS!

It's a four-letter word, but at least it's appropriate. I got home to a blinking answering machine and heard Lindsay's voice asking me to call her. She's our contact at CHSFS and is handling our adoption case. I actually thought (silly me) she was calling with good news that Zenabu's case made it through court and that we could travel. No such luck. His case is delayed again due to some documentation the court feels they really need. They need a little bitty piece of paper that tells them the area Zenabu lived in before he was relinquished. That's it. We're not the only family that's stuck with this problem, either. There are 4 or 5 others. Lindsay said the courts used to overlook it if this certain paper was missing, but lately they've been cracking down. I can't tell you how discouraged I am today. We have been through so much with this adoption. We have hit every possible problem I can think of, it is crazy that we are one of the families "stuck" in court still. At least Lindsay didn't seemed concerned. She said the document will come--we just have to wait for it. She hopes we'll be able to travel in mid-April. But that is a month away from now and it feels like an eternity. I hate this!

guardian angel



David and Carver made it home safe and sound last night. It wasn't until they were on their way that I had the terrible visions of David lying on the slopes with a broken leg. Skiing just 2 or 3 weeks before you travel to Africa may not have been the wisest move. Nevertheless, they came home after an incredible day together, and I know a few guardian angels that had their jobs cut out for them yesterday. Carver is surprising us with his snowboarding abilities. He's really good.

Today I did something that I hate to do. It was really, really awful. I went to (drumroll please) Wal-Mart. Yech! I never set foot in that store because it drives me bananas. And why shop at Wal-Mart when there is a very lovely Target just down the street? I shouldn't complain, though. Someone was very generous and gave us gift cards to Wal-Mart, which I used today to purchase the items David will need to take with him to Ethiopia. Things like anti-nausea meds., hand sanitizer, travel toothpaste, et. cetera. My cart was pretty full by the time I was done, but I feel confident I was able to get just about everything he'll need. The fun part was buying colored markers (100 of them) for the children at the care center, and lots of stickers for Zenabu to play with on the airplane. It warms my heart that in just a few weeks, David is going to an amazing country in Africa where he will meet our son. Words just can't express all that we're feeling.

almost time to start planting...

That's me with my father, a long, long time ago. I bet I was 3 years old. We lived in New York and it was our first house. There was lots of black dirt, and my dad loved a project! I do remember this afternoon together with him, and I treasure it. My dad has been gone almost 4 years now, and it hurts as much today as it did the day he died--it's just that you learn to function through the pain. It is unfathomable to me that we are about to adopt our 3rd child, and my father will not know our son. Zenabu will have no memory of my dad. My dad doesn't know that we've added another child to our family. I hate it! But I'm thinking of my dad fondly today. The weather is getting warmer here, and in a week or two, I'll start my seedling indoors. My dad would be so proud. I'll add a photo of part of last years crop. And I can't wait to let Zenabu help me with this year's garden.

girlie day

The boys in the family left early this morning to go snowboarding. Always looking for a bargain, David saw that a local car dealership was offering free lift tickets if you came in and test drove one of their cars. Completely up for the challenge, David went in a few weeks ago and did the test drive. When they got back to the dealership, the sales-dance began. I think the conversation went something like this:
"Sir, I'd like to tell you about some of the excellent features in this vehicle."
"I'm here only for the free lift tickets."
"I understand, sir, but first if you'll allow me--"
"I'm here only for the free lift tickets."
"The gas mileage alone is--"
"I'm here only for the free lift tickets."
"Financing is an option if--"
"I'm here only for the free lift tickets."

The salesperson finally gave up, and David left with (you guessed it!) free lift tickets. It's a beautiful day here in Colorado so I know David and Carver will have a wonderful day together. Lily and I plan to do a whole lot of nothing, including a walk to the horse stables, playing in the sandbox, making brownies, and goofing off! Hooray. I hope you have a wonderful day too.

a day at the zoo...





No school today, so my friend Ali and I took our kids to the zoo. Lily and best buddy Bailey got to giggle together and actually look at the animals while Carver and best buddy Noah ran around, wrestled, and generally annoyed the animals. What fun!

the terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day!

CHSFS emailed today to inform us that Zenabu's case did NOT make it through court on Feb. 28th as planned. We don't know why. It's just life and there are delays. His case is now set for March 13th. I am devastated because this really throws off all hopes of travel over David's spring break AND David's sister being able to travel with him. She still may, but I don't know if she can get the time off work. Oh--and lest you think I am sooooo super-spititual with giving up snacking for Lent...today's bad news sent me into a downward spiral toward a carb-induced coma. I am taking my bloated self to bed now.

please ring!

the phone really, really needs to ring today with good news for travel. we are getting down to the wire here. last night i slept about 2 hours because my mind was racing in circles about how much we have to do before david goes to ethiopia, and how little time we will probably have to do it in. the packing and the paperwork is overwhelming. so if our agency would call today with the news that our paperwork is through the courts in addis, that would be a good thing.

how much?

something kinda sad happens when you turn 35. your metabolism slows down. i've slowly begun to realize this over the last several months, and i am not happy about it. last week i decided to start seeing how many calories i ate in a day, and looked for ways to cut out what i really don't need. but something happened along the way, and i've begun to think about the millions of people on this planet that have 300 calories a day--in a bowl of rice, for instance--and that's it. for the last 5 days, i have only been eating a small breakfast, a tiny lunch, and a normal dinner, and no more. i drink a lot of water and hot tea, but there's no denying the fact that my tummy feels empty. i feel so fortunate to have so much food in my house, and access to food all around me. the u.s.a. is so focused on food, in fact, you really can't go very far without it staring you in the face. i usually don't take part in lent, but this year i am challenging myself to eat the bare minimum and live with hunger pains as so much of the world does. at least i know when lent is over, i can eat whatever and whenever i want. others are not so blessed.

have you met my friend bono?

i know it's self-serving, but where else can i post my all-time favorite picture? yes, that's me about 2 years ago (with short hair). i'm completely obscuring david's face. he's behind me with the baseball cap and blue shirt. we got to meet bono (lead singer for u2 for those of you who have been living under a rock the last 20 years) before a concert. i'd like to tell you i had a very meaningful conversation with him, but i'm pretty sure i only had a tiny bit of drool coming out of my mouth. i made pointless hand gestures that i wanted his autograph, and he signed my shirtsleeve. so why do i care so much about a rock star? he's been a very influential person in my life. he's championed the causes that have pierced my heart. he's the reason behind product red (see my link inspi(red)). he's a major reason people are waking up to the aids crisis in africa. and i believe god is using him to spread the message of the poor. please watch his speech at the naacp awards last night. http://sandiego.cox.net/cci/entertainmentvideonews
rock on, bono!

amazed...

two really wonderful things happened yesterday. we received an email with updates on zenabu. even though ethiopia is having trouble with broadband, their turtle-paced dial-up is slogging along, so they do have some communication. when your child is on the other side of the world, living in a care center (albeit a great care center) you spend a lot of time awake at night wondering "how is my sweet boy?" so to get an unexpected email with a copy of a report that shows zenabu's latest milestones--well, it's a cause for celebration! zenabu is now 36 inches tall and 30 lbs. he interacts great with others and also enjoys playing by himself. they've said he has a "quiet" personality. huh? wonder what that's like! he's healthy and doing well--praise god!





the other wonderful thing that happened yesterday was that the women from my bible study threw a shower for zenabu. this is an incredible group of women that i've been close to for 5 years now. we've been through a lot together--and they've supported me through this entire crazy journey. they have told me again and again that they feel like they're getting a little boy too! so you can see carver and lily standing in front of lots of cute boy clothes, and the other picture shows some of the haul zenabu received. zenabu is so blessed and he doesn't even know it yet. all these women that fussed over the cutest little details for him--like socks and shoes and hats and toys and clothes, clothes, clothes. sweet cards telling him how they've prayed for him and are so excited to meet him. wow.

it was a great night.

3 year old boys

i've been trying to remember what little boys are like at 3. i have an 8 year old boy now...so it's been a while. i was looking through old photos, and i found this treasure of carver. this is how i remember a 3 year old boy. wanting his face painted every single day, trying to ride a bike with training wheels, laughing, giggling, and rolling around in the grass a lot. sign me up!

snow...

it just started snowing here in Colorado, and it's really snowing in minnesota where our adoption agency is located. the agency is actually closed today because of the weather. folks, we're talking minnesota--land of the vikings--so you know it has to be bad there. i am sad because this means no phone call today with news for travel. i'm trying not to get anxious. the bible clearly says, "be anxious for nothing" but does that have to include waiting for the phone to ring so you can book a flight to go pick up your son? gak--i guess so. still, i have a lot to look forward to this weekend. david is gone on a men's retreat so i have the t.v. all to myself after the kids go to bed. friends from my bible study are having a party for me tonight in honor of zenabu. and carver has a big event tomorrow that we're all looking forward to. i'll try to keep busy not thinking about our quiet phone...