4/10/09

Dear Gifted and Talented Teacher:

Thank you so much for your note about my child. Of course we are excited that they did well on all your assessments and are now qualified as "gifted" and "talented." Forgive me, though, if I don't jump up and down and fawn all over my child as so many parents do when they receive news like this. You see, we have another child at home who has a learning disability. For them, school is a daily struggle... a mountain climb, if you will. We've been working with them all year to make school a place of excitement and joy, rather than something to fear.

I have one child who does really well on tests and standardized assessments. They know the answers and are blessed with the right amount of logic to get through tasks quickly. Learning comes easily to them and they have never known the "how do I do this?" feeling.

I have another child who cannot for the life of them remember how to spell "what" or "flavor" or "special." They work twice, sometimes three times as hard on their homework and schoolwork to get good grades. They struggle through assignments that take other kids 5 minutes. They get up every day and do it again, with a smile on their face because deep down, they have moxie, courage, and determination.

So you tell me. Who is the talented one?

4 comments:

Vivi said...

Very sweet perspective. I'm sure your heart gets torn in two pieces...pride and agony over the struggle. My brother-in-law is a special ed teacher and so many of the kids have parents who gave up on them long ago. Your little guy/gal is very fortunate to have such involved parents.

Stacy said...

and you are totally awesome too ...

hotflawedmama said...

Ugh. You are so right. Society holds one up so much more than the other and only those of you in the pits can stand in awe of both of their accomplishments.

Awesome mommy for recognizing that and celebrating the strength it would take every day to make the smallest of strides.

KT said...

I feel you on this. Our oldest just can not seem to grasp the concept of phonics, at all... She has watched her little sister (5 yrs younger) pass her up, and now her littlest sister (8 yrs younger) is looking to pass her up within a year. It surely breaks the heart and spirited of the struggling child, who is like you said, trying MUCH harder. We have had to make the decision to homeschool. Hopefully for our daughter this will take some of the pressure off....time will tell...